So as most of you know, last November, a relationship in my life ended probably in one of the ugliest ways possible. It’s going to be almost a year since then and through this year I have experienced many different prejudices, emotions and etc. However today, a particular experience stuck in my mind after seeing a couple familiar faces last night…bullying, gossip and assumptions.
I spent the last couple months consistently hearing about people’s thoughts on me, people who had probably socialized with me for no more than an hour put together. Peoples assumptions on who they thought I was. I received ugly messages from some girls who were very close to my ex as soon as the split was made official, while trying to keep myself intact, dealing with all sorts of obstacles thrown at me. At the time of dealing with all this, I kept myself strong in front of most laughing it off as crazy girls gone wild, however when I was alone I let it all consume me. Eating apart and taking everything that I had fought so hard to keep in place. My self esteem, my pride…most important, my excitement for going about and socializing. Every human being has a limit, when that limit is surpassed there is a breaking point and I had reached that. After hearing numerous accounts of “fake” “cold” “slut” “whore” and so on I decided to pick up and run away from my hometown, residing in San Francisco. This is what these words had taken away from me. Myself. My sanity. My family. Because of these different ideas on who I was I separated myself from my family, trimmed my friend list down and stuck to very close few. Those same people whom are still in my life and will probably always be the only ones in my life very close to my heart.
As most of you know, most of my blogs have a point towards the end. What I had been experiencing, and so often do I experience even recently when most feel to convey their messages through gossip, was bullying. People do it through gossiping not realizing that these words eventually by game of the mouth end up reaching the ears of the subject, somehow influencing this persons life. Sometimes positively, sometimes negatively and when this happens, we are speaking about exactly that, Bullying. Bullying has been such a touchy topic lately in our social world due to the rapid increase of victims falling to this. Luckily, in the end I came out stronger and learned the ways of feeding off this bullying. It was like feeding me steroids, then leaving me starving for even better succession. You know, we all have our different faiths and beliefs, I as a Christian have always believed in the saying “Do unto others as you will have be done to you” or however it goes. So I’ve always tried to go about my life living MY life, and not worrying too much about others. Never have I fed off spreading gossip about others nor do I ever want to feed off that. I’d rather be a homeless outcast in the social in crowds if circumstances were to be such. However, it still surprises me when I see so many fall victim to this. Why is is that in our society now days, this has become our ways of going about our evenings, or our means of socializing. Two girls go out for dinner and somehow most of their time is spent somehow tearing apart some other girl. Or two guys go for drinks and somehow they burn down a girls reputation and then piss out their alcohol like nothing wrong was done and go about their lives. Why do we do it? Why is it as human beings we cant go about our own lives, and if nothing positive is to be said then just simply shut our mouths.
The fact is that most people don’t realize that no matter what extent the gossip is being spread, the bullying is put into action, the hurtful accusations nailed, it has a negative effect. And in some unfortunate circumstances it CAN end someones life. How many times have we flipped on the television and put it on the news and heard of some young girl or young boy whose life has ended due to bullying.
Im going to end this blog with this for you to take with you, keep in mind that life is a viscous cycle and unfortunately, karma is a bitch. We don’t like things being said about us, yet we say harsh things about others and you want to know the truth? Whatever you are saying about someone else is being said about you. What goes around comes around. So go about your life, as a good Samaritan, if you have any disagreements with someone, either 1. Address the issue, in a nice forgiving way. 2. Deal with it and move on with your life or 3. Just simply ignore it. Theres no need for further action. No one is holding a gun to your head forcing you to like someone, that’s okay. It’s the extra fluff you bring along with not liking someone that starts the shit, to be honest. Lets make our world a little better, especially if we go about preaching our Christian ways. Because ladies and gentlemen, If youre participating in these ways, remind yourselves every time you stare at yourself in the mirror, that you are a bully. And that my friends, is the harsh truth you’ll have to wake up with every morning. That the person you enjoy ripping apart with your friends is only a victim to a bully. A bully who has your face and your name written all over.
Hope you guys enjoyed,